Where would I go


“Where would I go and will I end up where I intend to go?  What direction would I choose?”  These were the first questions that I asked myself when I first saw this picture.  The longer I looked at it, the more I realised that I don’t have to wonder where I would go – north, east, south or west – because I can choose any direction I want to within the three hundred and sixty degrees around me.

This got me thinking about life.  We choose the direction we wish to go. I also know that other people can point us in a direction but it is we who choose to walk the path.  I also understand that circumstance can also point us in a direction. Continue “Where would I go”

When you choose life!

The day after I tried to commit suicide for the seventh time, I was in hospital and as I lay there, I thought to myself: ‘I tried to put an end to my life seven times in a row, but it doesn’t seem to work out for me.  Let me choose to live! Maybe that will bring more reward in my hopeless situation.’

Ever since that day I looked at life in a different way, because I’m not just living a life.  I choose to live my life. Continue “When you choose life!”

The two good men and a pedestrian

One day, there was a pedestrian walking on the side of the road minding his own business.  He was listening to music on his phone and wore earphones.  He was unaware of the reckless driver coming his way, speeding hundred kilometers per hour in a sixty zone.  The driver didn’t see the speed bump ahead and tried to avoid it by driving with one wheel on the pavement.  But he didn’t see the pedestrian on the side of the road and hit him so hard that his leg was almost torn off.  The driver drove away and didn’t look back to see if the man was hurt.

The pedestrian was hurt badly.  He almost lost his leg and was bleeding to death.  He couldn’t move because of the pain.

Along came a good guy.  He saw the pedestrian and thought he would stop and help.  The good guy is a dedicated Christian and thought he would serve him with prayer … While the pedestrian was still bleeding, the man knelt down and started to minister: ‘Good day, my friend!  How are you today?  Do you know Jesus Christ? You know Jesus can heal you from all your pain right this moment.’  (For the record: I know Jesus heals all kinds of illness and pain, but bear with me till the end of the story). The good guy continues: ‘I’m going to pray for you and I want you to pray with me in your thoughts.’  First, he led him in a repentance prayer and then prayed for healing.  After his prayer he said: ‘I’m a member of the church just around the corner and we have a healing service this coming Sunday. It would be great if you can come.  Here is a card with my number on it.  You’re welcome to call me any time for prayer or just a chat.  Brother, I’m going to leave you now.  I have somewhere to be and I can see you are tired of all the pain and bleeding, so I’ll leave and you can get some rest.  God bless.’  And so the man drove away, feeling pleased with his ministry. Continue “The two good men and a pedestrian”

Happiness Helps


Over the years positive psychology has placed strong emphasis on how positive affect can improve health. This prompted Vista Clinic to develop the Happiness HELPS campaign as a means of improving positive affect in patients. The aim of the campaign is to promote mental health and to reduce the symptoms of depression. The Happiness HELPS concept consists of a set of practical actions that can be carried out on a daily basis in order to combat the negative emotional affects of depression and anxiety.

 Click here to visit our Happiness HELPS website.

The acronym “HELPS” provides an easy-to-follow guide which can be used by everyone to promote and maintain their mental health.

HELPS stands for:
Help others e.g do random acts of kindness for others
Exercise e.g take the stairs instead of the lift
Learn e.g Learn to say hello in a different language
Play e.g sign aloud along with the music
Spiritual growth e.g. read your bible, pray.

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When plans fall to the way side

I am the first to admit I do not plan every step in my life; however I like to have a plan in terms of work and the future. When I was younger, like most of us, I knew that I wanted to get married at

“this” age and have children by “this” age (as if it is so easy, as if you can order your life from a menu) and to be truly honest I still want life to work like that, but have accepted to an extend that I cannot order my life from a menu.

This being said…. nothing and I mean nothing gets under my skin more than if I have made plans and they just don’t work out due to other’s crappy planning. A simple example, this morning when I got to the office I made provision for work that needs to be done this week and over the weekend it was then that I got the call that trough my week’s planning into chaos. I had to jump into fixing mode and rearrange most of my week’s planning. Continue “When plans fall to the way side”

Depression, Anxiety and Bipolar Disorder this time of year

For many suffering from depression, anxiety and bipolar disorder this time of year tends to be more challenging in terms health maintenance. There may be a few reasons for this:

  1. The year is starting to take its tall, all the late nights working, being performance focused and not really making enough time for relax and recharge may cause us to feel a little run down and tired.
  2. Another contributing factor in this time is that our immune systems tend to be down and we are more susceptible to illnesses like colds and flues. When our immune systems are compromised this is normally when depression and anxiety get their hooks in just adding more fuel to the fire.
  3. In order to prevent getting worse, we often run to the pharmacy to stock up on our cold meds, which seems like a good idea. However when you suffer from depression, anxiety or bipolar disorder this might not be very helpful. Many cold medicines are stimulants, which might help to clear up that cold, but might make the depression and anxiety worse.

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A great achievement

When I started riding bicycle in 2002, I would never dare to even think of letting go of the handle bars because as soon as either hand left the bar, I was guaranteed to fall.  I made sure that my grip was tight.  However, this meant there was no way of drinking water.  I had to stop, drink water and continue.  Even with the water bag on my back, it was still risky to remove my hand. I had to learn to let go and grab the water nozzle. Continue “A great achievement”

67min of feeling good……Happy Mandela day!

People may forget what you have said or even what you have done, but they will never forget how you made them feel! This has not rung any truer on any other day than what it does today on Mandela Day. It is wonderful and noble to help others as is the spirit of Mandela day, but think for a moment which version of you will be able to sustain helping others, the rundown, burnt out, depressed, tired you or the happy, balanced, healthy, vibrant you?

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